reminder to self:
it is alright to not be alright.
it is alright to take the time to take care of yourself.
it is alright to put yourself first.
it is alright to feel.
self care ideas ( ◠ ᴥ ◠ )
- eat fruit or something sweet
- take a warm bath with lots of bubbles!!
- brush hair gently
- walk outside barefoot, look at nice flowers
- listen to soft nice music
- go to the thrift store and buy nice old clothes
- bake something
- do laundry and make clothes smell nice
- brush cat
noshameinoursickness’ Favorite Coping Skills Masterpost
Alternatives for when you’re feeling angry or restless:
- Scribble on photos of people in magazines
- Scream
- Tear apart newspapers, photos, or magazines
- Exercise
- Clean
- Listen to music and sing along loudly
- Pop balloons
- Slash a piece of heavy cardboard or an old shirt
- On a sketch or photo of yourself, mark in red ink what you want to do.
Alternatives that will give you a sensation (other than pain) without harming yourself:
- Hold ice in your hands, against your arm, or in your mouth
- Take a cold shower
- Wax your legs
- Put PVA/Elmer’s glue on your hands then peel it off
- Massage where you want to hurt yourself
- Stretch
Alternatives that will distract you or take up time:
- Say “I’ll self harm in fifteen minutes if I still want to” and keep going for periods of fifteen minutes until the urge fades
- Color your hair
- Complete an assignment
- Make a cup of tea
- Play a musical instrument
- Watch a TV episode or a movie
- Paint your nails
- Organize
- Cook
- Dress up or try on old clothes
- Shop online
Alternatives for when you’re feeling guilty, sad, or lonely:
- Congratulate yourself on each minute you go without self harming
- Call a friend and ask for company
- Do your makeup
- Look at things that are special to you
- Compliment someone else
- Have or give a massage
- Light a candle and watch the flame
- Go chat in the chat room
- Allow yourself to cry
- Take a hot bath with bath oil or bubbles
- Curl up under a comforter
Alternatives for when you’re feeling panicky or scared:
- Listen to soothing music
- Do yoga
- Hug a pillow
- Do a “reality check list” – write down all the things you can list about where you are now (e.g. It is the 9th November 2004, I’m a room and everything is going to be alright)
- Go for a walk
- Feel your pulse to prove you’re alive
- Put your feet firmly on the floor
- Touch something familiar/safe
- Leave the room
Alternatives to harming yourself:
- Remember that you don’t have to hurt yourself just because you’re thinking about self harm
- Create a safe place to go
- Repeat to yourself “I don’t deserve to be hurt” even if you don’t believe it
- Think about how you may feel guilty after self harming
- Put a band-aid on the area where you’d like to self harm
- Write the name of a loved one where you want to self harm.
- Draw on yourself with a red pen or body paint where you cut
- Give yourself a henna or fake tattoo
- Draw on the areas you want to cut using ice
Alternatives to help you sort through your feelings:
- Phone a friend and talk to them
- Free write
- Do some art
- Make a notebook of song lyrics that you relate to
Websites:
You are loved.
You are special.
The world would not be the same without you in it.
You are valued.
You are important.
You are noticed.
You are not invisible.
You do not deserve to hurt.
You do not deserve to suffer.
Take care of yourself tonight/today. Put down the blade. Put away whatever you are craving to harm yourself with. Go take a hot bath. Go read a book. Turn on netflix and watch your favorite show. Go on stumbleupon and find all kinds of cool stuff. Send a text to a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while. Color or draw. Finish that project you have been putting off.
Make a bucket list. Go to a travel blog and look at pretty pictures. Make a list of all the beautiful places you want to see in person.
Get through today. Leave yesterday alone. We will deal with tomorrow when it comes. Today, remember that the world would not be the same without you in it. Remember that you are loved. Remember that you are valued.
~Nelly the Narwhal
(Source: fairysharkmother)
every day you go without contacting them is one day closer to moving on. remember, it’s better this way. you’ve come this far. don’t hurt yourself or them by reaching out
you are not broken, or bad, or unloveable, just because someone didn’t want to be in your life. you are important and you matter. love yourself
(Source: gemmacorrell, via radioactiverobin)
mental health is just as important as physical health!!! if you are not doing okay ask for help. please ask for help! pretty pretty please
